How to Deal With FAILURE
If you’ve been reading my blog for a while, you already know that for the past few years I’ve been involved with many different projects.

I’ve done people’s makeup. Made dog collars. Sung songs. Done arts & crafts. Written blogs. Written books. Made videos. Created websites.

I’ve given psychic readings. Angel readings. Social media consultations. Search engine optimization consultations. Raw food classes.

I’ve eaten vegetarian food. Vegan food. Raw vegan food. Omelets.

I’ve tried a lot of different things. Some of them have been very successful. And some of them have been… not so successful.

I’m sure you can relate. What area of your life is a bit spazzy? Maybe it’s your health – is your weight up and down? Or your relationships – have you been through a ton of breakups?

Obviously we all have the option of looking these events as “failures”, as many people do. But lemme ask ya, what good is that going to do?

I’m going to let you in on a little secret. Viewing yourself or your life as a “failure” is pointless. It’s like driving around a roundabout with no intention of getting off. All it does is create more “failure” to whine about.

So from this day forward, promise me you’ll never view your life as a failure again. Instead, you’re going to look at your life as if it were a PETRI DISH.

Life as a Petri Dish

A Petri dish is a little dish that scientists use to do experiments in. They take the results of these experiments to do more experiments. Then they take the results of THOSE experiments and do even MORE experiments. There is literally no end to the experiments.

What I am suggesting is that you start to view the circumstances of your life as EXPERIMENTS instead of “failures”. What did those 25 failed relationships teach you? You probably gained a lot of CLARITY as to the kind of person you really want to be with. You wound up with a ton of RESULTS to your experiments. Going forward, you can use those results to create BETTER experiments (relationships).

The truth is that viewing your life as a failure creates a lot of emotional goo in your system that you just don’t need. But viewing your life as an experiment dissolves the goo so you can GET ON WITH IT and have fun.

As I was pondering all this, I came across a diagram on Facebook that perfectly depicts my career path:

Yes, my life often looks like a scribble. But I’ve learned something from each and every one of those scribbles. And I wouldn’t trade them for the world.

xo
kb.

Related Posts Plugin for WordPress, Blogger...

10 thoughts on “How to Deal With “FAILURE”

  1. Jan Ebling

    Hey, KB!
    Thanks for such an inspiration message today. Like you, I’ve had many ups and downs in my life, but you know what? The key is to take something positive, even the teeny-tiniest bit, from the experience and LEARN from it!

    And the one thing I remind myself of is that life is transient, constantly changing, which is a great thing!
    Peace & love being swooshed your way!
    Jan~

    Reply

  2. Tangerine

    Perfect timing, KB! I’m feeling ya. I’m pickin’ up what you’re putting down. I am here now. I am NOT a failure. You and I have a similar trajectory, and I thank you for the reflection.

    Namaste, sista!

    Reply

  3. Dr Rob Pennington

    Hey KB,

    I love your awareness that success is the end result of a messy path. Absolutely true for me too. All I can do is see my next step, take it, and then I see more to take another step.

    Somewhere I heard the difference between a success and a failure is that the success tried one more time. We learn all we can, we step out, like that crusader in the picture on the wall over Indiana Jones’ father’s desk or like the Fool card in the tarot, with confidence that no matter where our foot lands we learn more that we can use to take another step. Even when we fall to our knees we can still get up.

    Bravo, KB for keeping the faith for all of us!

    Rob

    Reply

  4. Lakshmi

    Great, inspiring post. I am trying to view life in the same manner, too. It is amazing how we are conditioned unconsciously according to society’s definition of success.

    Reply

  5. Erin-Ashley

    Ha! I feel the same way about my life! I studied to be a doctor, then a researcher, then a psychologist, an ecologist… and then a … psychic??? :-O

    Failure is fun if you can enjoy the ride instead of focusing how it’s supposed to be. :D

    Reply

  6. Robin

    I think it is important to distinguish between the outer and inner worlds we inhabit. If we focus more on the inner world and cultivate awareness, the outer world tends to reflect this. It is a paradox, but one which – if we manage to trust in it – can have massive implications for our well-being.

    Reply

Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *