“The world does not come AT you; it comes FROM you.”
- Douglas Brooks
One question I’m often asked is, “what’s the best way to protect yourself from negative energy?” Many people I talk to feel drained by relationships, events, and situations that zap their feeling of well-being.
This problem is easy to fix, and you don’t need a degree in the psychic arts to protect yourself. Though it may sound like a radical approach, the best defense is to drop your defensiveness.
Now before you go and get all defensive, allow me to explain.
When you head out into the world with even a subtle vibe of defensiveness, you are projecting an expectation out into the Universe. Your expectation is that you’re going to be hurt, inconvenienced, or attacked by someone or something in your reality. Because what you experience is always a match to your expectation, you’re setting yourself up to perpetuate this need to be on the defense.
“The most important decision we make is whether we believe we live in a friendly or hostile universe.”
- Albert Einstein
If you have the courage to drop the defensiveness, you’ll eventually see that you are the only one who has the power to transform your Universe into a friendly one. This doesn’t mean that challenging people and situations will not arise; it means that you will see and deal with them differently. The world is not your enemy unless you make it into one.
Drop the idea that you need to control the outer world to feel energetic or happy. When you instead become conscious of your inner world, you activate a laser beam of positive energy that annihilates negativity in its tracks. This “defense” (if you can call it that) is the presence of your true self. When you shine from the inside out in this way, solutions arrive before problems do. This was described to me in yoga as, “radiating your diamond core”.
Just as a diamond can’t be scratched, the essence of who you are can’t be hurt. So what is there to defend against? The only thing you are ever afraid of are feelings of lack, insecurity, rejection, or bondage.
“The walls we build around us to keep sadness out also keep out the joy.”
- Joseph Campbell
When you spend all your energy defending yourself, you have no vitality left over to appreciate your life. Joy is all around you but you fail to see it, and living this way is exhausting.
The common opinion is that our energy is zapped by outer circumstances, but what if that’s not the truth at all? What if the real cause of our weariness is a constricted inner state of fear and defensiveness?
It takes a lot of negative energy to hold up the walls we build around ourselves. Protect yourself by tearing them down.