Well, it has finally happened.
My creative well has run dry.
I’ve got writer’s block.
Yep… I’ve been sitting here for about 6 hours, twirling my hair and trying to squeeze out an entertaining blog post for you. But nothin’s happenin’.
This is not the norm. Usually, I bounce out of bed at 6am, do some yoga, and by the time I’ve slurped the last slurp of a delicious green smoothie, I’ve already written a masterpiece in my head.
But not today. Know why?
Because I’m “should-ing” myself.
Lucky for me, I’m not the only one that “shoulds”. I’d even make a sweet bet that you’re should-ing all over yourself without even knowing it. But before you make a break for your stain remover, let me explain exactly what “should-ing” is.
Should-ing is the practice of telling yourself what you SHOULD do. It’s the little voice in your head says:
“I should be less judgmental.”
“I should go to the gym.”
“I should be nice to my weirdo boss.”
“I should eat healthier food.”
“I should write a blog post today.”
Sound familiar??? Thought so. We all have this little should-ster on our shoulder.
The problem with the word “should” is that it implies that you are wrong. Positive results are impossible because you’re doomed right off the bat. How can you possibly expect to create something awesome if you think there’s something wrong with you???
When you tell yourself you “should”, it’s also likely that you’re trying to fit in to someone else’s standards. And we all know that when you don’t stay true to YOU, the best you can hope for is mediocrity.
The solution is to replace the word “should” with “could”. “Could” gives you a choice. “Could” liberates you from being wrong.
Notice the difference:
“I could be less judgmental.”
“I could go to the gym.”
“I could be nice to my weirdo boss.”
“I could eat healthier food.”
“I could write a blog post today.”
See??? Complete freedom.
What’s on your “should list”? ☺