“I wasn’t open to stuff and now I am.
Things are changing for me.”
~Carl Allen (“Yes Man”)
Many people I talk to feel “stuck in a rut”. This feeling occurs when you want to move forward in life but feel trapped in your current situation; or when you know what you want but not how to get it. Or perhaps you have no clue what would make you happy but sense that your life could improve somehow for the better.
If you haven’t yet learned to look within yourself for answers, now is the point in time when you will try to get out of your rut by shopping for a new outfit, shopping for a new boyfriend, shopping for a new job, or by going on a diet.
But like everything else in Life, the way out of a rut cannot found in the external world. If you’re stuck in a rut and truly want out, you’ll need to take on some new perceptions about yourself.
Acknowledge the Illusion
In reality, getting “stuck” is not possible. As energetic beings living in a vibrational Universe, our energy is always in motion. The illusion of being stuck occurs when we continue to re-create the same conditions, over and over again. I like to call being stuck in a rut, “the hamster wheel of discontent”.
If you are stuck in a rut, realize that your energy is in motion, but that you are using it to create situations of “sameness”. You can only begin to get out of a rut once you acknowledge that there’s no such thing as a rut in the first place. The only blocks in your path are the thoughts you continue to think. You are a powerful creator, and you can begin today to perceive your life in a new, fresh way.
Feeling stuck in a rut is a clear indication that negative thoughts are governing your mind. Let’s face it; no person who is “stuck in the rut” of an amazing life is bitching about it. They aren’t in therapy, complaining to their psychiatrist about their lack of direction because they don’t know what to do with the abundance of happiness, millions of dollars, joyous relationships, or stellar business plans.
If you are stuck in a rut, realize that you are just as powerful as those whose lives you envy. You are simply using your creative power in a different way: to re-create a cycle of un-fulfillment instead of a cycle of well-being. Only when you begin to transform negativity can you pull yourself out of a rut.
It’s all in the Words…
There are four little words that caused you to become stuck in a rut in the first place, and the same four little words have the power to hold you there. Once you know them, eradicate them from your vocabulary completely. The four little words are: “this shouldn’t be happening”.
- “My company’s bankrupt. This shouldn’t be happening.”
- “My body is ill. This shouldn’t be happening.”
- “My husband / wife just dumped me. This shouldn’t be happening.”
- “The economy has gone to hell. This shouldn’t be happening.”
When you tell yourself “this shouldn’t be happening”, you take on the mentality of a victim. Playing the victim feels good in the beginning, but in the long run it renders you powerless. When you give up any sense of responsibility in creating your life, you also disregard your power to change it.
Shorten the phrase, “this shouldn’t be happening” into one simple word: “YES”. Notice how “yes” immediately cuts the resistance of any given situation and opens a door to better feeling thoughts:
- “Yes, my company is bankrupt.
But now I know what NOT to do, and I have a clean slate to begin anew”.
- “Yes, my body is ill.
But I’m grateful for this whole experience, because it has taught me what’s truly important in life.”
- “Yes, my husband / wife dumped me.
Apparently they couldn’t see how awesome I am, but now I’m free to find someone better.”
- “Yes, the economy appears to have gone to hell.
But with over 6 billion people on the planet, I’m sure that there is still an abundance of wealthy people who value my product / service and have the money to pay me for it.”
Life. Just say YES to it.
When you are stuck in a rut, all the wonderful things you have to be grateful for are overlooked. You can’t see the forest for the trees.
If you can’t think of anything to be grateful for, start with your next breath. Within your next breath, all your needs will be met. Your breath will remind you of one of the greatest things you have to be grateful for – your life.
From a spiritual perspective, the essence of you is simply grateful to be here. The experience of living on planet Earth is a treasured opportunity. It’s considered joyous and wonderful, no matter what external conditions appear to indicate.
So the next time you feel like a broke, sick, lonely failure, be thankful. Within this experience your soul is having the time of its’ life.
Ditch the Complainers
If you feel stuck in a rut and want out, you may have to create a new circle of friends.
How do I know this? Because people who are stuck in a rut tend to hang out with other people who are stuck in a rut.
Of course it’s much easier to hang out with another victim and share your complaints, judgments, and criticisms about life than it is to take responsibility for your creations and consciously make changes for the better. But hanging out with a grouch will drag you down. It will encourage you to play the victim; it will keep YOU stuck in a rut. If you want out of a rut then bless the complainers on their journey and find some new, uplifting friends.
Of course if all else fails, you may want to consider this quote by Douglas Adams:
“If you find yourself STUCK underneath a giant boulder you can’t move, consider how lucky you are that life has been good to you so far. If life hasn’t been good to you so far, consider how lucky you are that it won’t be troubling you much longer.”