Case in point: this weekend I ran into someone I haven’t seen in quite a few months. She gave me a huge hug, gazed up at me with her huge sparkly eyes, put her hands on my shoulders and exclaimed, “CONGRATULATIONS on everything you’re doing!!!”
I was confused.
“Everything I’m doing…” I thought to myself. “What the heck am I ‘doing’??”
I guess she meant my blog or my book or maybe my videos. I still don’t know what she was so excited about. But like many people, I sometimes focus on my screw-ups instead of my successes.
My latest feelings of screwed-up-ness stem from my web traffic not being as high as I want it to be. This makes me want to rip my website off the internet like a page in a book, scrunch it up into a ball, stomp on it, light it on fire and shove it down the back of Mr. Laycock’s pants (Mr. Laycock was my grade 4 gym teacher. YES that was his real name.)
Unfortunately websites can’t be “ripped” off the internet in such a dramatic fashion and also I don’t know where Mr. Laycock lives (lucky for him.)
So instead I’m left with this feeling of failure.
Of course from a Law of Attraction point of view, focusing on failure is a perfect way to shoot yourself in the foot. Or stab yourself in the eye. Or punch yourself in the face. Think Ed Norton in “Fight Club” and you’ll understand what I’m talking about.
The more you feel like a failure, the more you create circumstances of failure. The more you create circumstances failure, the more you feel like a failure. The more you feel like a failure…. Oh you “got it”?? Alrighty then.
What’s really hysterical to me is that I don’t understand where these feelings of failure are coming from. Even though my web traffic is not where I want it to be, it IS up 48 percent from last month. 48 percent!!! If I were the CEO of a fancy company I’d be IDOLIZED for increasing web traffic by 48 percent. I’d be escorted on board the company’s private jet to Tahiti to drink pina coladas and ride hippopotamuses in celebration.
Here’s my point: it is NORMAL to feel like a failure. But it is HEROIC to feel like a failure and then decide to do something about it.
But by “do something about it,” I don’t mean skip off to Silicon Valley and exhaust yourself trying to be the next Mark Zuckerberg. I mean NOTICE that you have the choice to think differently. NOW, in this moment, you have a choice.
I don’t HAVE to throw a hissy fit over my web traffic; instead I could focus on what’s going well. If I focus on my successes, I will INSTANTLY stop feeling like a failure and start feeling like a success.
And the bonus prize is that the more I feel like a success, the more I will create circumstances of success. The more I create circumstances of success, the more I will feel like a success. The more I feel like a success…. Oh you “got it”?? Alrighty then.