“Quitting is not the same as failing.”
~ Seth Godin
Some people say, “Never give up”. Sounds like a classic tagline for one of those lame-o motivational posters your boss hangs in the lunchroom. You know the one, with the rock climber and the big black border around it.
I say, the sooner you give up the better, at least when things are not going your way. If you’re frustrated, bored, or irritated, it’s a clear sign that you are not in the flow of the Universe.
When you’re not in the flow of the Universe, life blows. Work is stressful. Relationships suffer. Creative projects are laborious.
I experienced being “out of flow” with a creative project this weekend when a vlog I’ve been working on just wasn’t happening. The whole process was painstakingly difficult. Nothing worked. Nothing flowed. It was frustrating from the very beginning. Finally on Sunday afternoon, I trashed it. I wish I had of given up sooner because I could have had a pretty amazing weekend.
In contrast, every other vlog I’ve created has been wonderfully uplifting and fun to make. Even though there was a lot of action involved, the process felt fun and relaxed. Since my previous vlogs emerged from an inspired place, I didn’t have to strain for a great end result. This fluid outpouring of creativity is how you know you’re “in the flow”.
The essence of the Universe does not operate in an arduous manner; it unfolds with grace. Grass doesn’t strain to grow; it just grows. The sun does not strain to shine; it just shines. Simple. High five, Mother Earth.
But as humans we feel the need to make everything difficult. When things are not going our way, we persevere, work harder, and tire ourselves out. “Effort equals results”, we say, when just the opposite is true.
If you think swimming upstream will give you more muscle, I’m here to tell you it’s much more fun to go with the flow and enjoy the ride.
There’s wisdom in the current.
I am really great at quitting. I sometimes quit before I start.
What you are saying is true, but runs contrary to what we Americans prize most: grit and determination. People often think if you are suffering and having a rough time getting something done, your experience is therefore more valuable and authentic.
The pain may be real and authentic, but is it necessary?
I know when I am in harmony, and it is usually not when something is ridiculously laborious and frustrating.