“You’re not your job.”
~ Tyler Durden, Fight Club
If you’ve seen the movie Fight Club, you might be familiar with one of my favorite quotes:
“You’re not your job. You’re not how much money you have in the bank. You’re not the car you drive. You’re not the contents of your wallet. You’re not your fucking khakis.”
If you’re into spirituality, I assume you’ve also been reminded countless times that you’re not your physical body, personality, ego, role, or social status, etc, etc, etc.
I know all this to be true. I know that the reality of who I am is a Soul. I know that I’m here to experience, express, and evolve into greater and greater states of alignment with my soul. I know that when my body dies, something much more profound will remain. I know all this not from some “woo-woo” angel book, but because it’s what I’ve felt during vast, silent, life-altering periods of meditation.
But even though I know all this, it doesn’t always make letting go of my “roles” any easier.
Last week I sold the business I started over six years ago. Six years may not sound like a lot of time to some, but it was just long enough for my ego to become enraptured by the notion that my business and the role I played in it WAS my identity.
I know this because when I was packing up boxes of supplies for the new owner, I felt like I was packing up pieces of myself. And when all the boxes were shipped and the new owner was on a plane heading home, I sat in my empty workroom and cried.
It was the kind of tears you shed when someone close to you just died. You’re happy for the memories you shared with them, but somewhat traumatized at the fact that you’ll never see them again.
In this little story, I knew that the person who had just died was me, and also in the casket lay all the subconscious beliefs that “who I am” had something to do with job. It’s been easy for me to say, “I’m not my job”, but taking action and actually watching a piece of my identity crumble was an interesting spiritual experiment.
What I found is that in letting go of the illusory aspects of my identity, the awareness of my REAL identity has been strengthened. For example, this morning I woke up in a new role, as a writer. But I don’t have any emotional or ego attachments to being a writer; it’s just what I feel like doing right now. It’s how the real me, the SOUL of me wants to express itself at this particular point in time.
There will come a day when I don’t feel like writing anymore, and then I’ll do something else. Like a snake shedding its’ skin, I’ll let go of the old and create something new. The more I center myself in my identity as a SOUL, the easier I will be able to embrace change.
The trick to a profound and amazing life is to let go of all the attachments that cover up your identity as a Soul. Continually let go of the old versions of yourself so that the new, updated one can shine through. It’s a lot like computer software.
I’m happy to announce that KB version 33.11 has just been released.